Yeah, I said it out loud. My question is this Why the fuck not? To me, the single most attractive quality in a man is success — success comes wealth — they usually go hand in hand. He was a go-getter. Make decisions with your head, not your heart. Take one of my best friends from high school, for example.
Her mother always taught her to be tolerant and non-judgmental. Focus on the big picture. If on a first date, a guy reveals that he is a loser, he should automatically become disqualified. You might need to hold that thought and first see if the person you're interested in wants you for you or for your money. If the person is prodding too much on how much money you make, you need to get out of the space as fast as you can.
Or you will end up in a place where the person is staying with you for your money. Within the first few dates, as a means to test the waters, a gold digger might incidentally experience a financial crisis for which they would need your help.
They might need money with respect to some of the conundrums faced and ask you for it. You will get a panic call maybe in the middle of the day to let you know that they need you right away along with your wallet.
They need to be certain if you can handle their "petty" finances to see if you might eventually get them the big stuff. You will see them waltz around the Gucci showrooms and pick the fanciest and expensive outfit. You will notice that they are not the most mannered person in the room. They do not show gratitude and take everything and everyone for granted. In fact, you will see how they behave a certain way around people who they deem inferior to them.
The bad behaviour is easy to spot and shows a side that you might not like. They will never say the words "Please" or "Thank you" to express gratitude. It is bad manners and a big red flag that they are only looking for someone with money. One of the biggest things to notice about gold diggers is their lack of ambition and career goals. When you do go out on a date, try to ask them about their career goals and what they wish to do in the future.
In fact, ask them what they are currently doing and where they see themselves in the next five years. Gold diggers would often have the vaguest answers to give as they do not see a career as a big deal.
All they would want is to be taken care of instead of doing things on their own. It is one of the biggest red flags you can spot that the person is a gold digger.
I'm sure he's set up a trust fund for you. Use caution when lending money or offering loans. It's always dangerous to exchange money in relationships, but gold diggers often expect and push for it. Pay particular attention if they keep experiencing random 'emergencies' that require you to give them funds, even under the guise of a loan. If they ask you for a loan, you could say something like, "I don't think it is a good idea to lend money to my partner. It creates an imbalance in the relationship.
Be wary of any requests for an allowance. If the person isn't working, but still has bills to pay, then they may approach you looking for some kind of ongoing financial support. If they plan to rely on this money instead of pursuing a job or other opportunity, it's possible that they are a gold digger. If the allowance disappears, then they will, too.
Method 2. Notice a sense of entitlement. Ask your partner what they think they are entitled to out of life and from you. If they answer in a way that demonstrates that they view relationships as a partnership, then this is a positive sign. For example, they might request jewelry almost immediately into the relationship. Look for online profiles with expensive preferences listed. As you are browsing through dating profiles, watch out for those persons who list only pricey hobbies, interests, or preferences.
It's perfectly fine to enjoy expensive wines, for example, but this could indicate a problem if they only enjoy it because of the price tag and not the quality. However, some are more sophisticated and stealthy. Pay attention to their friend's attitudes. People usually hang out with like-minded individuals. If all of your partner's friends are gold diggers, then it's highly likely that they are as well. If their friends constantly talk about looking for rich men or women, then you can tell that's what they value.
Why do you think that is? Method 3. Recognize that it could be a man or woman. It's a common misconception that only women are gold diggers.
Men can be gold diggers as well, and often are. The gifts that they request might differ, but they'll still look for expensive ones. Likewise, some gold diggers are looking for long-term relationships, whereas others only want temporary support.
Ask yourself if they'd stay without money. Sit down and seriously consider what would happen if you lost all of your money tomorrow. Who would stay and support you and who would leave?
An equal partner would treat you the same, while a gold digger would leave sooner rather than later. This would let you see if they respond with disbelief, anger, or bluntness to your concerns. Don't be fooled by physical appearance. Gold diggers can often appear very successful and well off during an initial impression.
They may wear expensive labels and know how to function in wealthy society. In time you will find out whether or not they've paid their own way or used the funds of others to appear wealthy. Talk about your understanding of love and romance. Sit down with the person and explain to them what you think relationships are all about.
Ask them what they think of when they hear the word romance. If relationships aren't partnerships to them and if they discuss everything in terms of money and material items, these are signs of a gold digger. Think about what you have in common. If you start to suspect that you are dating a gold digger, go back through your memories and try to list the ways that you are similar to one another.
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